DATE: December 15, 2002

LOCATION: The Point, Philadelphia, PA

LINEUP: Karin, Linford, Brian Standefer, Will Sayles

REVIEW BY: Various Listees

I've been living in the Philly area for almost 5 years now, and I don't know 
what kind of hole I've had my head in (no conjectures, please...) to not 
have gone to a show at the Point in all that time. Great place. And to think 
I'll be back this week to see Monk! Anyway, the comfortable seating and no 
smoking were a great joy to my wife and the children she's carrying. Also, 
working the merch table gives us an excuse to meet many people there and to 
encourage them to buy extra CDs for Christmas gifts.

Bill Mallonee plays. I was a fan of his before I ever heard of OtR, but I've 
always managed to miss his live show. He is as good as I expected. However, 
my wife (Amy, by the way) is a mental health therapist, and she has many 
thoughts on his state of mind. Super nice guy, though. We saw the beginning 
his second set, and he says that the Philly crowd is super polite. I think 
that's where we decided he's nutso. Philly is known for being everything but 

On to the main act. They open with Bothered, which I love, as this was the 
first OtR song I had ever heard. Then was All I get for Christmas is Blue. 
I'm pretty sure that My Love is a Fever came next. This has never been a 
favorite of mine, but this version was pretty good.
Karen at this point tells us about the fact that marriage proposals at OtR 
shows are a fairly common request. She then shared her marriage advice about 
cooking with love and fighting naked. Finally she opened the floor to those 
who might be inspired to propose. And a guy did! He made a lovely speech 
about loving a wonderful girl and being best friends and wanting her to 
marry him, and she said yes!
After a few minutes of applause, Linford says "I want to see a ring".
And this is where the sneaky Bastard part comes in. Our discipline-boot shod 
friend who was sitting at their table pipes up and says "I happen to have a 
ring" and give the box to him. It is a nice ring, I must say.
I never did catch who it was that got engaged, but my hats off to them, and 
to his planning. I had arranged for flowers to be at our table when I 
proposed to my wife, and I thought that was good planning. This was really 
good, though.
The band took this opportunity to go into Fever, which was highly 
appropriate. After this, I honestly don't remember the exact songs, or the 
order. I loved hearing the cello, though. Mary's Waltz was beautiful, and 
Jack's Valentine was fun. I like that song much more with a drummer.
Anyway, we had a great evening. It was nice to finally meet Ysobelle, and it 
was nice to go to a show with my honey. I don't see us going to many more 
shows together until after the babies are born, and then it will depend on 
getting a sitter!
All in all, a great time!

You know, I saw this header and exclaimed, "No, I'm no--okay, well, yes, I am."

But the sneak award this time goes to David-- for those of you as yet  uninformed, 
it was our own peace-and-veggies-breathing-deeper David who asked the lovely and 
diminutive Dana to be his bride. Poor girl didn't stand a chance-- it was a big ol' 
set-up, and everyone knew but Dana. I knew, Anita knew, Liesel knew, Karin and 
Linford knew. Okay, the other hundred-or-so people in the room didn't know.

Just as the show started, David slipped me the ring box under the table, hissing, 
"Hide this!" It seemed an inopportune time to tell the imminent groom-to-be that I 
didn't have any pockets-- especially none that would hold a fairly large white 
padded leatherette jewelbox with a drop-dead knockout white-and-yellow-gold diamond 
ring inside. (He showed it to me when Dana was in the ladies' room; good thing she 
was gone, too-- I shrieked. Good job, David.)

Having nowhere else to put it, I must admit I was forced to use the only available 
hiding spot: The Pointy Boots of No Forgiveness. Coming up to my thigh as they do, 
the only possibly hiding place was in the top of my left boot, securely snugged to 
my kneecap, under the table. I think I may have to make an addendum to the name, now. 
The Pointy Boots of No Forgiveness and Marital Encouragement? It bears some thought.

I will admit that while I was one of the more minor characters for the evening, 
when Karin began talking about her advice to young marrieds, and how people tend 
to propose at Over the Rhine shows, my own hands started to tremble a little. I 
wasn't quite sure how they were going to pull this one out. And then, Karin said, 
"Well, you know, people do tend to do this all the time, so I thought I'd just open 
up the floor. Is there anyone here tonight who wants to propose?"

By this time, the anticipatory tension at our table was thicker than a Manchester 
accent, and poor Dana was nearly rigid with shock as, after a moment of silence, 
David stood up and said, "Hey, Karin and Linford-- actually...."

Dana burst into tears, the houselights briefly came up, and David said some 
beautiful things about the wonderful woman with whom he wanted to spend his life.

"I want to see a ring!" Linford said.

"Oh, yeah, that's right. Um...yeah, I guess I'm gonna need, hmm...."

"Ooo!" I piped up. "Look what I _just_ happen to have!"

I understand about the Reverend Al Green's smile getting too big for his face, 
like Linford was talking about at the Ann Arbor show (thanks, Don!). I thought my 
smile was going to pop right off my face, though for once in my life, I was trying to 
be unobtrusive. I also think I may have been one of the only people in the room not 
teary-eyed. Karin, when describing the happy event for the late show, mentioned that 
just about everyone cried, including her and the rest of the band. Certainly, I 
think Dana cried enough for any three or four of us, though they were definitely 
very happy tears. She mostly managed to make them subside into a very happy glow 
after a few songs, though I put a pile of napkins in front of her, just in case. 

All in all, it was definitely a special show, and one for the books. I took a 
setlist down, and some notes, and I might write a more formal review later, when 
I'm not at work. I?m very, very glad I got to share in the festivities, and my 
best blessings on you and Dana, David. 

Mazel tov!

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